Tips below have been extrapolated from virtual sessions at the ADHD Women’s Palooza
Co-Created by ADHD COACHES, Linda Roggli and Terry Matlen
I recently participated in ADHD Women’s Palooza. If you have ADHD and are not familiar with this event, you should definitely find your way there next year. I signed on because many of my clients have ADHD and the topics for this virtual event seemed promising. I was not disappointed and will share some of the gold nuggets I picked up from the numerous podcasts in a series of forthcoming Blog posts.
Today, I want to first emphasize that ADHD women need to understand that your challenges are not one and done, so if you find a Coach or therapist who tells you they can FIX you, run the other way. Facing the gremlins with ADHD is a process, an ebb and flow, trial and error, good days and bad days; however, with a Coach or support system who gives you permission to be human and experience setbacks without judgement, there is hope for a more productive tomorrow.
Quite frankly, some of the suggested Palooza strategies that I became aware of seem like universal game changers for those with ADHD as well as neurotypicals. BTW, GOOGLE SEARCH says “Neurotypical” is a newer term that is used to describe individuals of typical developmental, intellectual, and cognitive abilities. … Individuals who live with autism, are on the spectrum, or who have other developmental differences are referred to as “neurodiverse.”
Another piece of advice is to accept that this is your unique G-d given identity packed with many wonderful assets as well as challenges. Embrace all your quirky behaviors that make you happy. Of course, there is the Good, the Bad and the Ugly. Acknowledging that you resist doing things is important and is worthy of a deeper dive to give you some insight to that defensive posture you might project to others. Face the enemy head on.
My final tip addresses change. Habits are behaviors that we use to better manage the direction we want to go in. I am not sure that anyone purposefully chooses to engage in a bad habit – that is another topic for another day. When an ADHD challenged person wants to focus on wanting to alter behavior for positive change, Seth Perler reminds us that “Baby Steps are where it’s at”. You cannot wake up one day and say I am running a 5K tomorrow when you have never even jogged. You might sign up as Seth did for a challenge to do 60 days of 100 push-ups and 40 pull-ups to be done daily and only manage to do 30 days out of the 60 days. Perler relates that he has trained his mindset to consider that accomplishment as progress, not failure. Seth says to “change your fricking thinking”. Give yourself permission to accentuate the positive. Reframe what the measure of success realistically looks like. Now who cannot benefit from that advice when your thoughts are trapping you from seeing success. #adhdwomen #adhdpalooza #mindset #habits #lindaroggli #sethperler
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